My Husband Wanted to Date Other People—Now He Regrets It

When Open Love Closes In: A Marriage Redefined

Relationships are complex, and when fear and unmet needs go unspoken, even love can lead us into unfamiliar territory.

One woman learned this the hard way when her husband gave her an ultimatum: open their marriage—or divorce.“I said yes because I loved him,” she reflects. Initially hesitant, she eventually began dating—only to fall for Ben, her husband’s best friend.

At first, it felt innocent. Familiar. Safe. But six months in, everything changed when Ben confessed: “I’ve always been in love with you.”

The moment shattered any illusion of emotional distance. Her husband, blindsided, erupted in anger and grief. That night,

he admitted his own fears and regrets—he hadn’t expected she’d form a real connection, let alone with someone so close.

Now, he wants to close the marriage, heal, and start over. But the woman is torn—between loyalty to her husband and the deep, surprising feelings

she’s developed for Ben.Caught between two men, she writes: “I followed my heart the best way I knew how in a situation I never asked for.”

Now, she’s left holding the pieces—unsure if either relationship can truly be put back together.